Because most Whites have not been trained to think complexly about racism, and because it benefits White dominance not to do so, they have a very limited understanding of racism. Yet dominance leads to racial arrogance, and in this racial arrogance, Whites have no compunction about debating the knowledge of people who *have* thought complexly about race. Whites generally feel free to dismiss these informed perspectives, rather than have the humility to acknowledge that they are unfamiliar, reflect on them further, or seek more information.
"…Whites are in the position to legitimize people of color’s assertions of racism. Yet Whites are the least likely to see, understand, or be invested in validating these assertions and being honest about their consequences. This position, coupled with the need for racial comfort, has many Whites insisting that people of color explain White racism in the "right" way. The right away is generally politely and rationally, without any show of emotional upset."
From the essay "I’m Leaving!" White fragility in Racial Dialogues by Robin J. DiAngelo
Has this ever happened to you? What did it look like? How did you respond?(via racebending)
what i’m about to talk about doesn’t come easy. kinda like how i made posts about the complexities of calling out se asians in kpop fandoms and what not—-i feel v uncomfortable talking about this. but. as i did then, this needs to be addressed.
let’s talk about discrimination of asians by other poc.
and why every fucking time someone wants to bring it up or talk about it, the conversation is redirected to the discrimination perpetuated by asians.
and why that is not fucking okay.
and before anyone even dares to derail this post/convo, let me make it clear for you. i am not cosigning ANY anti-blackness, appropriative, discriminatory actions committed by asians. all of that is gross, wrong, and reprehensible.
got it? good.
so when asians point out the discrimination asians face (by anyone not just poc but this tends to happen esp when we talk about discrimination we face by other poc), it gets real fucking annoying when each time some smartass wants to derail the convo by pointing out shit like “but antiblackness” “but asians that discriminate against *insert non-asian poc group here*” like why the fuck are you fucking trying to make this about you? ITS NOT LIKE WE’RE COSIGNING ANY OF THIS SHIT. IF YOU CHECK OUR BLOGS OUT. YOU SEE US DISCUSSING IT. WE’RE NOT GONNA GIVE OUR PEOPLE A FREEBIE PASS (its not even ours to give). BUT LITERALLY THESE CONVERSATIONS AREN’T ABOUT THE SHIT YOU FACE. IT’S ABOUT THE SHIT WE FACE.
a group of people can face discrimination yet also discriminate.
antiblackness and discrimination of non-asian poc exist in asian communities. discrimination of asians exists in non-asian poc communities. THESE TWO THINGS CAN CO-EXIST.
seriously. when i, as a diasporic korean, wanna talk about say the bull fuckery of poc koreaboos and call them out. why does someone wanna point out antiblackness (also like obv when i say this, i’m not saying black ppl are the only ones who pull this shit. cause like i have non-black, non-asian—-cause yes you can be both—poc tryna bring this up too) in kpop as if i cosign that shit? WHY. HOW IS IT RELEVANT. also do you even realize how imperialism and colonization played/play a part in the antiblackness in kpop and korea (i’m still not excusing the behavior but this is important in understanding it)???? are you assholes not able to understand that shit intersects all the fucking time?
also another thing, oftentimes when they say “asian” ppl mean “e asians”. i really feel like i shouldn’t need to explain how fucking problematic that is but i will. asia is not just e asia. and as an e asian, i know v well that my people needs to work on allowing s and se asians (but esp se asians) speak within our larger communities. so i’m not saying the blame is all on other non-asian poc. what i am saying is, y’all don’t help the goddamn situation. if you wanna talk about a specific asian population, SPELL OUT THE FUCKING GROUP. asia is h u g e. like you’re gonna need to specify. cause i bet your fucking ass that if i was like, “okay so what about antiblackness in burma/myanmar” you’d be looking at me like “say what now” when hey guess what burma/myanmar is. in. fucking. asia.
i mean seriously. why is it that asian bloggers are only allowed to talk about discrimination in asian communities it’s only either
1. discrimination by white ppl
2. discrimination by asians
how would you feel like it every time you tried to talk about an important issue within your community, someone jumps in and chimes in about how that one time someone in your community was discriminatory? i’m not joking, each time there’s at least that one person. or haha how about when you wanna talk about how people outside your community discriminate your people and then those very same fucking people go, “but you guys do it to us too”. i mean are we fucking 5 right now? so if i fucking stabbed you right now and then you stabbed me, i’m can say “but they stabbed me too.” i mean do you say how wrong this kind of behavior is?
the fact that you face discrimination doesn’t negate the fact that you are discriminating. the fact that you are also a poc doesn’t somehow give you an immunity pass. if you fetishize or dehumanize us, you need to fucking stop and you WILL be called out. if you appropriate from us, you need to fucking stop and you WILL be called out. stop acting like this is coming out of nowhere. you can’t demand respect for your humanity and forsake ours in the same breath. fuck off with that shit,